It's about YOU and our bond
From time to time, I conduct several virtual activities to bond with YOU, my LOLers, because YOU (YOUU!!!! YOU!!!!) are AWESOME and deserve to be loved. And, oh, DO I NOT FEEL PROUD TO ANNOUNCE THAT I KNOW YOU? :P
So, that is what I am to do here! And, don't forget you are a part of the LOLer family, even if you are a first timer. To be a part of the activities and to strengthen our bond, you can add me at GooglePlus where I generally carry them out and talk to all of you AND GRAB ALL THE LOVE I CAN GET FROM Y'ALL! XD What a greedy prick, I am.
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1) QUESTION AND ANSWERS (26/2/2016)
(Something very basic to start with, yeah? )
WHO WANTS Questions and Answers WITH ME?
Ask me ALL the questions away!!!
I'll post all questions and answers on the blog!
(CAUTION: ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING BELOW IS JUST MY 'OPINION'. YOURS MAY BE DIFFERENT FROM MINE BUT, WE ALL HAVE THE RIGHT TO STICK WITH OUR OPINIONS.)
Brundha B
Feb 26, 2016
food that describes ur personality.
I am.....PULSE TOFFEE. XD It has a sweet covering and a spicy-sour filling. XD So, I can be both too. Really sweet and sophisticated and spicy and all fun when I have been with you for a while! :D
Saumya Sawleshwarkar
Feb 26, 2016
Here's my question - Name any random everyday object that u can connect life to...metaphorically...and explain how?
Feb 26, 2016
Here's my question - Name any random everyday object that u can connect life to...metaphorically...and explain how?
I am like a defused bulb. XD I'd love to shine, I'm made to glow. Just some repair and ill be able to. :D
Saumya Sawleshwarkar
Mar 25, 2016
This is a very general question. Everyone falls, right? But, it is good that you want to get up, and are asking me how to do it! :D
First, REMEMBER that you CANT NOT GIVE UP! Realize you are not the only one. You ain't. And, ALL of us have gone through that AND, we survive it. It may not be easy, BUT WE ALL DO SURVIVE IT AND STILL ARE ABLE TO SMILE.
Accept that you have to move on further in your life.You can't be stuck there. AND YOU CAN NOT MOVE ON IF YOU DON'T WANT TO. If you don't want to move on, don't read further. Nothing can help you.YOU ARE MORE THAN THAT! So much more!
Second, stay with people who will help you (This is very important) They need to remind you to get back up!
Third, This universe is an equilibrium. (Or, Karma is a b*itch) (Or, you reap just what you sow)
we need to realise that if there is happiness, there will be sadness too.Also, good and bad are very subjective. Most of us think, happiness is good and we find comfort in happiness, but, some others find their comfort in sadness! So, do you realise that good and bad are just the games of our mind? Like, eating with hands is good in South India, it is a part of their tradition, however, some Americans may find it 'not good'. (There is a scientific reason as to why they don't use spoons, though, but that's a different topic, we all judge too quickly. Even I do.)
Getting back to the point, good and bad are very subjective, and so, we can't say happiness is good in the real sense, and sadness is bad! All we can say is that they are EXTREMES of emotion. Both having a different effect, opposite to each other, BUT, same in nature- extreme.
There is a tiny place between happiness and sadness, where one is neither happy nor sad. There, we accept both, with open arms, and embrace them, both. This is the place where we are satisfied, where we find God, and internal peace. There, NOTHING that happens can affect us very much.
You won't believe me, but that is the TRUE NATURE of humans. (internal peace)
It's time we try to be at that tiny place, which can transform us completely, and, can help us achieve BLISS (not happiness). Bliss that is permanent! (Happiness is temporary in nature!)
We can work on it through meditation and sun salutation. These are the easiest and most effective ones to reach that tiny place.
Trying to understand this and trying to reach that place will help us get back up!
Fourth, turn to spirituality! It gives you a lot of answers and helps you to live with hope yet practicality! MEDITATE. And understand philosophy. Might sound so cliched and boring and useless and not important. But, meditation and philosophy broadens your consciousness. It helps you understand life better and to overcome obstacles and live with bliss. Ever thought about WHY we were given a life? Just to sort us into members of Hell or Heaven. NOPE. God knows us like the back of his hand. He could do it without sending us to earth. THINK. find answers. keep yourself busy by understanding the truth of life. That way, you build yourself stronger.
Fifth, Sit down take a deep breath
Think about what has happenedImagine what can be the WORST consequence of this
Accept it (This is the most difficult part)
Think about the ones who are worse off and how they live with positivity and hope.
Sixth, THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS HERE NOW. GO OUTSIDE. don't be at home. Do the things you love and which make you feel good like, painting, dancing, singing for some. Find like-minded people who can enjoy and build up that talent of yours. EXERCISE. A healthy mind ALWAYSSSSS makes you happier. Make a schedule. Keep it tightly packed. Give yourself small challenges and reward yourself for them. like, the challenge to concentrate on your passion and not to think about them. PUSH your limits to fulfill it. GO OUT, INTERACT, SOCIALISE. You will soon realise that your problem is not the worst problem. When you are with positive and strong people, you will learn a lot from their will and you will be inspired to take this issue lightly.
LATELY, DO NOT BE ASHAMED OF ASKING FOR HELP, (NEVER TAKE TO PSYCHIATRY MEDICATION THOUGH), AND BELIEVE IN YOURSELF JUST THE WAY I DO! <3 :)
Mayank Katela
Feb 27, 2016
Is 'live and let live' the correct thing to do in today's world?
Is 'live and let live' the correct thing to do in today's world?
It depends on what you exactly mean by live and let live. If it means complete isolation n self-sufficiency of different groups, it is not possible, like it was in the past. However, we can not let excess of anything prevail. We should let people be till they let us live, even if they don't believe in something we do or vice versa. That is tolerance. BUT, if it is demolishing the quality of life for people, one needs to stand up against it. I always believe in finding the middle way out and here too, I believe it is true to some extent.
Mahak Mehta
Feb 28, 2016
When someone does something wrong, do they even realise it's WRONG? (Fucking wrong?). It's kinda rhetoric question but i still want you to answer this. I'm of the believe that no one in this world is bad, but then why do they do bad things at the first place? Don't they realise it is 'bad'? Are they satisfied with the demons inside them? And i'm not saying i'm good, i do bad things, but i know when i do it. Do some people have different psychologies?
Feb 28, 2016
When someone does something wrong, do they even realise it's WRONG? (Fucking wrong?). It's kinda rhetoric question but i still want you to answer this. I'm of the believe that no one in this world is bad, but then why do they do bad things at the first place? Don't they realise it is 'bad'? Are they satisfied with the demons inside them? And i'm not saying i'm good, i do bad things, but i know when i do it. Do some people have different psychologies?
I would first like to point out that good and bad are VERY subjective, Mahak. What may be bad to you, may not be bad to me, and vice versa. However, there are several situations when people might do wrong things. 1) Maybe it is something wrong to you, but the other person believes it to be right. eg, the beef issue between two different religions
2) The person knows it's something wrong, but can not handle or control themselves and he/she does it. It is generally a reaction in extremes of emotion. Like, shouting on someone when angry
3) The person may know it's wrong, but find it justified. Like, it is wrong to kill someone, but don't we find dead sentences for terrorists justified?
4)The person knows it's wrong, but it is easier to justify it than to change oneself. eg, being rude to someone when you are not in control.
ETC.
There may be different situations but, Mahak, most of the time, we know what we are doing is wrong in general terms. However, in SEVERAL other situations, we may be unaware. I'll tell you something, someone once told me. He said, no one really knows what's right and wrong. Isn't it true? Like, when animals kill it's okay, when humans do, it's wrong? No lion, for killing a human, not even for food, is ever jailed. XD
This arises due to 7 billion different psychologies on Earth. No two persons are same. Everyone is fighting their own demons. But, are they satisfied with it? In the heart of hearts, THEY ARE NOT. But it is VERY difficult to fight your own demons, Mahak. So, they tell themselves that it is okay, and justify it to themselves, and fool themselves by brainwashing themselves, saying they are satisfied. No one is ever satisfied on earth, Mahak.
Saheba Kapoor (TeenWithDream)
Feb 27, 2016
For you what is a 'bond'? And how it forms and why it breaks?
Feb 27, 2016
For you what is a 'bond'? And how it forms and why it breaks?
A very 'relavant' question, Saheba. XD To me, a bond can be of several types! But a true bond consists of understanding, love, knowledge of one another, honestly, trust, respect, and the other cliched but important things. XD If you are able to feel at ease with another person, congrats, you have just created a bond with him/her! :D Generally, a bond is something which you have with someone similiar or with someone who ahs something in common with you. You would need/want/enjoy the person, and when he/she feels teh same with you, and you both are on the same platform/page, a good bond is created. The most important thing however, is understanding, I believe. And, there I am here, trying to develop one with my blog readers. :)
Why does a bond break? There can be may reasons. Maybe the two people do not want to break it, but situations cause them to break it. Maybe one of them breaks it on their own. Generally, it happens due to mistrust. That is the most common reason. The most painful one is misunderstanding. However another important factor here, which I would want to point out is, how BAD do you want the relationship? If two people want it REALLLLLLY bad, they will keep it together ANYHOW. (To be honest, you should not let it get to you in such an extreme manner.)
Saheba kapoor (TeenWithDream)
Feb 27, 2016
As reflecting the beauty of your happy blog I would like to ask a question... Who is our enemy? The enemy who is not urs or mine but all of us's. Who is it? And why do you think it's our enemy?
Feb 27, 2016
As reflecting the beauty of your happy blog I would like to ask a question... Who is our enemy? The enemy who is not urs or mine but all of us's. Who is it? And why do you think it's our enemy?
A very good question, I must say. You have just asked me to tell you THE truth that changed me completely. It took me something to find this out and trust it. Though, you MAY or MAY NOT trust it. But, the answer I am about to tell you has helped me and makes me feel easier. XD Do not take me for a psychopath, though. It is very much true and too natural to believe.
So, everyone in this world is GOOD and BAD. Generally, we associate Good with what people call God, and Bad with Devil. And, take Devil to be their enemy. But where would your enemy want to hide? The place you would last check. Devil hides inside you. And it keeps you from believing that you are God.
This Devil is called 'Ego'. Don't take it for the English meaning of the work Ego.
This Ego is a self image. You think you are good at English. Ego. You think you are bad at Maths. Ego. It is a complex concept. But, I'll try to explain it. This will be very long. Not everyone let's Good take over them, because sometimes, it is not what they desire. The fact that we refer to ourselves by our names is Ego. Ego tells us we are not God.
http://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2013/02/26/what-is-the-ego/ says..
"The ego is an identity of our own construction, an identity which is false. If we take all the beliefs of what we are – beliefs about our personality, talents, and abilities – we have the structure of our ego. These talents, abilities and aspects of our personality will be attributes of our skills, but the mental construct of our “self” is artificial. It is an active and dynamic part of our personalities, playing an immense role in creating emotional drama in our lives.When we have thoughts about our self that we agree with we construct a self-image. The kinds of thoughts that contribute to the ego structure are:
“I am smart.”
“Nobody likes me.”
“I am better than you.”
“That was stupid of me.”
The ego hides behind the “I” and “me” in those declarative thoughts and statements about our identity.
When we have such thoughts and agree with even the slightest conviction that these ideas define us, then we are building, or reinforcing, an ego. We first have these thoughts when we are kids, perhaps when we were teased on the playground, or when reprimanded or praised by a teacher or parent. In all cultures, developing a self-image is a normal part of socialization. Problems arise, however, when that self-image is negative, inaccurate, or even overly positive. Considering that we develop our concept of “self” as children, it is inevitable that our self-image doesn’t map to reality as adults."
"The ego is an identity of our own construction, an identity which is false. If we take all the beliefs of what we are – beliefs about our personality, talents, and abilities – we have the structure of our ego. These talents, abilities and aspects of our personality will be attributes of our skills, but the mental construct of our “self” is artificial. It is an active and dynamic part of our personalities, playing an immense role in creating emotional drama in our lives.When we have thoughts about our self that we agree with we construct a self-image. The kinds of thoughts that contribute to the ego structure are:
“I am smart.”
“Nobody likes me.”
“I am better than you.”
“That was stupid of me.”
The ego hides behind the “I” and “me” in those declarative thoughts and statements about our identity.
When we have such thoughts and agree with even the slightest conviction that these ideas define us, then we are building, or reinforcing, an ego. We first have these thoughts when we are kids, perhaps when we were teased on the playground, or when reprimanded or praised by a teacher or parent. In all cultures, developing a self-image is a normal part of socialization. Problems arise, however, when that self-image is negative, inaccurate, or even overly positive. Considering that we develop our concept of “self” as children, it is inevitable that our self-image doesn’t map to reality as adults."
You associate certain things as something and expect things out of it.
U like it when things go your way. if something else happens, we become sad. But our true self is God. But you think your true self is the Ego because you take these 'convictions' (ANY SELF IMAGE) to be true.
But your Ego is fooling you. Your task in life is to suppress your Ego and be more Godlike. We have to get over our attachment to 'good' which is so subjective, to feeling sad.
It is difficult but that is the aim of your life. And everyone else's. We are all partially ourselves, and partially EGO. The aim of Life is to be able to identify ourselves
Extreme of ANYTHING is Ego. The desires that you have, wants, apprehensions, sad feelings is all ego
When the need arises to carry out a situation and you do it, it's not Ego.
But, when, you do the thing before it is necessary or NEEDED it's Ego. Depends on the feeling u have.
U have to take a situation happy or sad...And feel NO extreme of emotion
If u r able to do that... U have defeated ego. Nothing will hurt you then, and you will accept everything and be flexible. because THAT IS YOUR TRUE SELF THAT YOUR ENEMY WILL NEVER LET YOU GO TO. Defeat your enemy.
U like it when things go your way. if something else happens, we become sad. But our true self is God. But you think your true self is the Ego because you take these 'convictions' (ANY SELF IMAGE) to be true.
But your Ego is fooling you. Your task in life is to suppress your Ego and be more Godlike. We have to get over our attachment to 'good' which is so subjective, to feeling sad.
It is difficult but that is the aim of your life. And everyone else's. We are all partially ourselves, and partially EGO. The aim of Life is to be able to identify ourselves
Extreme of ANYTHING is Ego. The desires that you have, wants, apprehensions, sad feelings is all ego
When the need arises to carry out a situation and you do it, it's not Ego.
But, when, you do the thing before it is necessary or NEEDED it's Ego. Depends on the feeling u have.
U have to take a situation happy or sad...And feel NO extreme of emotion
If u r able to do that... U have defeated ego. Nothing will hurt you then, and you will accept everything and be flexible. because THAT IS YOUR TRUE SELF THAT YOUR ENEMY WILL NEVER LET YOU GO TO. Defeat your enemy.
Anastasia G
Feb 29, 2016
Khyati Sanger
I have read in a book that "There are actually two feelings: love and fear". If it's true, then is it also safe to assume that the other feelings are actually made of them or more specifically that they are actually those two? And if the positive feelings are made by love and the negative ones are made by fear, then what about courage? I think that courage is made by both love and fear. Is it true?
Thank you very much for your time!I didn't ask just one question sorry heheh
Feb 29, 2016
Khyati Sanger
I have read in a book that "There are actually two feelings: love and fear". If it's true, then is it also safe to assume that the other feelings are actually made of them or more specifically that they are actually those two? And if the positive feelings are made by love and the negative ones are made by fear, then what about courage? I think that courage is made by both love and fear. Is it true?
Thank you very much for your time!
LOL. XD There was no restriction to one question, Anastasia. And, your question is so new and retrospective. It took me the most of the time to think about your question.
So, there are MANY feelings a person may have, and I don't think they can be constrained to fear and love. example, think of apathy. It is neither love, nor fear. However, I guess, love and fear are REASONS behind most of the feelings. Courage (as you say) is not love, it is the feeling of having enough strength to do something, but the reason you get that feeling is because you LOVE that something. Let's evaluate other feelings this way...
Hate - Love gone bad; either you love someone so much and something works against it, so you hate it. so, hate occurs due to love, but isn't love, or fear
Insecurity- occurs due to fear of losing something
helpfulness- You may not LOVE the person you are helping, but love the idea of helping. So, it OCCURS due to loving something, but isn't love or fear, generally, exceptions are always there
confusion- it isnt fear or love, but it OCCURS due to the fear of going wrong.
Hard work - not love or fear again, but you do it because you LOVE something that you are working hard for.
So Yeah.. All feelings are not a form of love or fear, but in most of the cases, the cause of those feelings is broadly these two feelings of love and fear. :) I hope that answers it :D
Mousoomee Ojha
April 14, 2016
I got a question. Asked to choose between love of your life- your soulmate and parents, what must one choose?
Well, that is one difficult choice. The answer will depend on your situation. Some 'love's are not WORTH being chosen over the parents, and even vice versa. So, you have to first see who regards you, who loves you. Your parents or your 'love' ? Generally, it is parents who do. They take care of you, they feed you, they educate you, they love you, SOOOO much that the 'love of your life' can never do for you. Respect your parents! Love them back. :D Don't take them for granted. You have no identity no security in this world without them. In VERY rare cases, parents are very hostile to the children. They honestly dont care about them, in that case chose your 'love'.
Just go with the one who is CORRECT!
I may sound rude, but you can fall in love again but can never replace your parents. They will never hurt you like your 'soulmate', so never disregard them. Or Karma will catch you anyway.
This choice is needed to be done only in EXTREME cases. If you are just generally comparing these two different and beautiful kinds of 'loves' and trying to choose ONE over the other, you are disrespecting them BOTH. Your parents are much more mature than you. They will generally be right in judging your 'love'. So, if your 'love' and parents are in harmony, then, your life is good and you don't need to choose between them. If not, try to look for the truth. WHY do your parents not like your 'love' or vice versa. Try to RESOLVE it than choosing one over the other, if you can, in stead.
But remember, your love will never do what your parents do for you.
I ENJOYED ANSWERING ALL OF THEM SO MUCH! AND I HOPE I WAS ABLE TO ANSWER THEM CORRECTLY :D THANKS A LOT FOR BEING A PART OF THIS ACTIVITY <3 MUCH LOVE!
AND, THE WINNER IS NOT ONE BUT TWO. IT'S A TIE BETWEEN SAHEBA (FOR THE QUESTION ON ENEMY) AND ANASTASIA. SO A BIGGG HUGEEE FATTT SHOUT OUT TO THEM, CLICK ON THEIR NAMES TO JUMP TO THEIR PROFILE ADD THEM, AS NOW YOU ALREADY KNOW THESE PEOPLE ARE TOO COOL! XD
2) COLLABORATES (9/3/2016)
Are there ANY writers who would like to make collaboration with me on my blog? It's basically writing a write-up on my blog with me. So, who is in?
(This activity is still on)
3) YOUR OPINION (21/3/2016)
It's just simply your opinion about my blog (http://lessonsoflifelol.blogspot.in) . Where do you think I should improve? What's your favorite section at the blog? :D do let me know! Pwease, pweety pwease? :D All people with their respective opinions get a shout out on G+ :D
PLEASE click on thwir names to go to their profiles and add them because they encouraged me and gave their respective opinions, thanks if you do :)
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